Screw this Natural Crap
My genius idea of trying to go natural to reduce the stress is not quite working out the way I planned. Decided we would try the SMEP (Sperm Meets Egg Plan). Plan sounds simple enough, BD starting on CD8 and go EOD until you get a + OPK and BD for 3 days straight, skip a day and one more just to be sure. DH was on board (or so I thought) since it involved no medical intervention whatsoever. Well we decided to start on CD10 instead. Managed to get that in and then skipped a day to go again on CD13. Still no + OPK so we knew it wouldn't happen again until CD15. CD15 came, temps plummeted so I took an extra OPK to work to make sure I didn't miss my surge. Tested around noon yesterday and the line was definitely darker then it has been but still not as dark as the control line. Got home, POAS expecting to see it a full positive and surprise, the line was barely there. CRAP! I missed my surge. Well, throw the SMEP plan out the window. I knew we had to BD that night and quick. Told DH, he suddenly appeared apprehensive and said no. WHAT???? Mr. I don't want any medical help and let's try "natural" and now you're saying no? Let's just say I was not a happy camper. Finally, he regained his senses and we BD'd last night. Woke up this morning and my temps skyrocketed to a definitely post O temp. No reason to BD for 3 straight days now. I'll admit I did have a few drinks last night but I doubt that was enough to fool my temps and have them go up that high. Guess the wait begins...
On another note, I find it amazing that you can become so close to someone you barely know. The girls in my support groups are truly amazing. I feel like we've all grown so close together that it doesn't matter if I have never or will never meet them. We cheer each other on and provide support when others we know have no idea what we're going through. One of the girls I feel closest to was expecting to have her first ultrasound this week. We were all pulling for her & hoping for the best. Unfortunately, it did not end up the way any of us planned. Her new pregnancy ended up being ectopic. She posted it immediately after returning from her appointment. I read it and immediately started to cry at work. How could someone I never met make me this sad to know what she was going through? I have honestly been bothered by this for a couple of days now and just wish I could take a long road trip to give her a hug. My heart truly broke when I thought about what she is going through. It just goes to show that you don't have to ever meet someone to be their friend. As long as you share a common bond, you can always have a friendship. I just hope she knows that we're all here for her and just hope she takes the time to heal both emotionally and physically.
You are a rockstar. I don't think I could do SMEP, but I've O'ed as late as CD26. I might lose a couple lbs from all the sex though if I started on CD8! ;)
ReplyDeleteI agree on the importance of having a support community. What did people do before the internet??
I tried the SMEP for a few cycles when I was first TTC. Actually, my second, third, and fourth cycles of TTC ever were SMEP, of course I O'd around CD 11 then, so it's was like one EOD and then ED, and always a BFN and more stress than anything. I totally understand the frustration and I also totally get the support group from people you don't really know. There's a thread I'm really active on and I love these ladies like anything. I think I want them to conceive more than I want it for myself sometimes. I love having the support and people I can talk to, especially when there's so few people in my own life I can talk to. Good luck to you!! You did BD before O, so timing was perfect!
ReplyDeleteIt is amazing how close we can get with other people we don't know. We all want that same end goal so it is easy to see how easy it is to bond. It is also wonderful to talk to people who "get it" because so often the people we see on a daily basis don't understand. I hope you caught that little bean! I tried SMEP last month but I didn't O so I can't tell if it would have worked. I'll probably try some version of that this month. Good Luck!
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